chore(NODE-3848)!: update dependencies

[nbbeeken]

Description

// prod
 node-addon-api           ^4.1.0  →   ^4.3.0     
 prebuild-install          6.1.2  →    7.0.1     
// dev
 chai                     ^4.2.0  →   ^4.3.6     
 clang-format             ^1.2.4  →   ^1.6.0     
 eslint                  ^5.16.0  →   ^8.9.0     
 eslint-plugin-prettier   ^2.6.2  →   ^4.0.0     
 jsdoc-to-markdown        ^4.0.1  →   ^7.1.1     
 mocha                    ^5.2.0  →   ^9.2.0     
 mongodb                  ^3.2.5  →   ^4.3.1     
 prebuild                 ^9.0.1  →  ^11.0.3     
 prettier                ^1.17.1  →   ^2.5.1     
 segfault-handler         removed     
 standard-version         ^9.3.1  →   ^9.3.2 

What is changing?

Tooling sync, and dep update, consistent with driver

What is the motivation for this change?

Freshening things up

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• Ran npm run check:lint script
• Self-review completed using the relevant portions of the steps outlined here
• PR title follows the correct format: <type>(NODE-xxxx)<!>: <description>
• Changes are covered by tests
• New TODOs have a related JIRA ticket

[durran]

LGTM. Nice refactor to use subprocess in evg where applicable.